"When you complain you make yourself the victim
Leave the situation, change the situation or accept it. All else is madness."
My perspective. The way I address and handle life.
I suppose what seems obvious and simple to me may not be so to others.. and looking back, I know for a fact there was a time that it wasn't so simple and obvious to me either.
I remember waking up to my crappy life everyday.. and wondering what on this Earth I'm supposed to be doing with myself and why does life have to suck
every. single. day.
Can I just catch a break? Where's my white flag?
For some reason I have come across many a general public who act as if they have no control over their circumstances.
I just do not believe that to be true.
We are the sum of all of our decisions.
If other people are running our lives, chances are we've given them the authority to do so. Disagree. Agree. Matters not. I'm telling you what I had to realize before a real change could be made. We all have free will. We are free to make our own choices.
Not making a choice, is still choosing.
If you're unhappy, angry, sad, anxious you have chosen this.
Understanding that you have the power is more than half the battle.
You can say no.
Don't allow yourself to be inconvenienced or ruled by others.
Why? When the time comes (and it does come) that the consequences of the decisions come to pass, who suffers?? Definitely not the person who made that decision for you... nope. You suffer.
I find a lot of these types of decisions are manifested from guilt or fear...
You feel guilty... you want to help... you're afraid of what other's may think..
When all you're really doing is bending to someone else's will and compromising your own happiness.
As a child my dad always gave me the "if all your friends jump off a bridge are you going to jump too?" bit...
As adults it seems we've regressed...
Our "friends" don't even jump off the bridge they just ask us if we'll do it for them..
The truth is.
Misery really does love company.
Are you hanging around miserable people?
Are you one of them?
When you walk into a room do you immediately identify all the negative aspects of the situation?
Maybe you're not even aware that you are this way.
Perfection doesn't exist.
Therefore there is always a complaint to be had.
On the flip side... there's always something to compliment as well.
It's not about what you see it's how you see it...
The way that you see things actually defines you more than it defines what you're observing.
Think about an ink blot test.
Kind of the same thing. Lots of people looking at the same images yet seeing different things and what a person sees somehow reflects a part of their psychological being.
I'm not a psychologist.. but I know that's how that works.
What you feel on the inside projects on the outside and your world is colored with your own individual box of crayons...
The point of this article is that you are in control.
If there are things that are literally beyond your control and nothing you do or say will change them.. at that point you must accept it and move on.
That is if you want to experience happiness.
When I come across new ways of living or thinking or learning I always dive right in.
Then I turn around and share my experience. What I've learned. How I learned it.
I think we all enjoy seeing or hearing how a real live person accomplishes things or overcomes things. It gives us hope that we're not alone and that others will help us on our way if need be.
I definitely want to be one of those people.
So far. I have managed to mostly save myself.
Please note that this was definitely not without help from my supportive and encouraging husband; but the choice was always mine.
I now know from helping others how it feels to stand over someone who is metaphorically drowning in 3 feet of water and I'm just standing there over them telling them to stand up...
No matter what it's your choice.
You can choose to stand up and save yourself from drowning or you drown.
No one is coming to save you.
It doesn't work that way.
If you want to make a change... start in your own head.
Start with being grateful.. be thankful.
Notice the value in things you didn't before.
Yes truly appreciate it. Appreciate that you were given another day even if you're not sure what you're supposed to do with it yet.. just start with being thankful for it.
Use that thing in your head.
Ask yourself questions. Hard ones.
What's making you feel the way you do?
Why are you allowing it to happen?
What is the problem???
Once the problem is identified you can focus on finding a SOLUTION.
Crying/whining/complaining about the problem won't fix the problem.
Although sometimes crying helps.
If you feel you need that to happen just go ahead and let it out..
But let it out and then regroup because the party is just getting started.
Make the decision.
Understand that right now everything around you is the result of your past decisions.
Know that all the decisions you make from this moment on will define your future.
It really is that simple and that complicated all at once.
If you want a new life.. make NEW decisions.
You can not make the same decisions over and over and expect new results..
I believe that is the ACTUAL definition of insanity.
There must be change.
And with great change comes great chaos so hold on tight..
Embrace your storms and be thankful through it all.
Look for the good.. it's in there.
If this transformation is any indication of where our future is going, I know we're on the road to greatness.
The things we've accomplished in just 5 years are pretty remarkable!!
I hope you will come with us!
The climb is rough. The terrain is rocky.. but the view is worth it.
As always thanks for stopping by!
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