Actually... if you really think about it.. we are all serving someone.
We're all using our gifts to benefit others... it's exactly what we're supposed to be doing!! However, if this is our purpose why on this Earth are we so bitter??
Well my answer to this is that we are expecting something in return.
We're expecting others to show their gratitude.. or at least say thank you once in a while.. we're expecting others to bend over just as backwards as we do in our service to them.
There lies the problem.
The problem is our expectations and our attitudes.
We should never serve another individual with expectations in mind.
That's the same as doing good deeds just to take credit.
You will never find happiness in that prospect.. at least I sure didn't find it.
Selflessly provide your service.. provide it solely because it will cause someone else's happiness.. and because it's the right thing to do.
We encourage our children to do the right thing.. why should it be different for us?
Remember that the right thing and the hard thing are normally the same thing..
I find that when I keep my attitude and thoughts in check I am rewarded..
Maybe hubby offers to help me clean the house.. or there have been times he's made me breakfast in bed..
Even if he doesn't reciprocate with action I see both my son and my husband wanting to help or do the right thing as well.. because your household only runs as efficiently as the example you set. As sahm's we set the tone for our homes. So if we do the right thing and do it kindly with a smile on our face and happiness in our hearts other residents of the household are more inclined to follow.
He does appreciate my service. He showers me in gratitude. He's always thankful for the meals that I prepare or his clothes that I clean.. but even if he isn't thankful that day it doesn't mean that I should stop serving him. He serves us every single day when he gets up and goes to work.. and not only is he serving us but he's also serving the customers he works for AND the other employees he works for..
As I said.. we are all serving someone.. and I am happy to be serving my family..
I think my husband really has the crappy end of the deal but don't tell him I said that haha..
I don't need others to be thankful because I am thankful.
I am thankful that I can stay home and provide services for my family.
That I can care for them exactly how I feel they should be cared for... sometimes that also means spoiling them... but every job has it's perks lol
I am thankful each and everday and I can't tell you what a difference that has made not only with my own selfishness but with my own attitude and behaviors..
I am responsible for my feelings. Hinging feelings or attitudes upon others' reactions is a direct set up for failure. Disappointment. Anger. Resentment.
The truth is we have zero control over others and if we continue to expect things we are creating our own unhappy circumstances.. which should be fixed immediately.
We should do what we do out of purpose and not because we're looking for applause.
If you are unhappy.. address your unhappiness.. chances are it has nothing to do with not receiving applause. Because hey.. if you're happy.. you wouldn't care if others think you're doing a good job.. because you know you're doing a good job.
So the next time you are feeling unappreciated..
Remove your expectations.
Reclaim your happiness.
And in all things Be thankful.
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It is my first of hopefully many motivational/inspirational articles that I plan to create.
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Here are some verses for thought on my article today:
- Psalm 118:21 (NIV) I will give you thanks, for you answered me; you have become my salvation.
- 2 Corinthians 9:8 (NIV) And God is able to bless you abundantly, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work.
- Ephesians 6:7 (NIV) Serve wholeheartedly, as if you were serving the Lord, not people,
- Exodus 9:16 (NIV)But I have raised you up for this very purpose, that I might show you my power and that my name might be proclaimed in all the earth.